In the past, rarely boys had the right to choose his future wife. And parents decided to choose a girl as wife for their sons. First, they said about their decision about the selected girl to their son.
And, if the son was disagree about the selection, for timidity and modestyhe had not expressedhis objection. If the parents were offered the choice of spouseto the boy, it also happened that the son vested all the powers of selecting the spouse to his parents.
Sometimes it could happen that a boy came out of military and saw a girl had been engaged with his, and he gladly accepted. Because of the importance of this enterprise, sometimes the boys are preferred the elders take the responsibility for.